The weight of our world is feeling heavy and overwhelming – If you are finding yourself in a constant state of fight or flight, know you are not alone. It's hard not to when the news is filled with constant threats in the form of natural disasters, war, human rights violations, discrimination, political turmoil, and violence. The list goes on and is fueling so much fear, anger, anxiety, and uncertainty.
On top of that, the cold winter season and the stress of fighting off sickness are adding another layer of challenge. As a highly sensitive person who holds space for others, I am feeling it. I know I’m not alone in this—many of us are carrying the collective emotional load while trying to maintain our own well-being.
At times, I’ve thought about moving—finding a place where there isn’t so much fear and anger. But does such a place even exist? And would it truly bring peace?
Historically, I have risen to leadership in times of crisis. During the frozen state of the world in COVID, I mobilized to create my business and support others. I felt empowered to serve, innovate, and meet the needs of my community. Lately, however, the creativity and energy to mobilize have been a struggle. Instead of pushing through, I’m practicing what I teach: prioritizing my own well-being. I know I can’t lead or support others effectively if I’m in a dysregulated state.
Recently, I’ve noticed myself wanting to numb out more than usual—binge-watching shows, mindlessly scrolling, or always listening to something. These are common protective responses to experiencing overwhelming emotions.
For others, it could look like using alcohol, food, sex, shopping, or staying excessively busy- anything to distract or numb ourselves from feeling our emotional discomfort.
The self-awareness helps me pause and lean into the tools and support systems I have in place.
We can’t mother, lead, or care for others from a place of depletion. We have to nurture our own needs first.
It’s okay to not be okay. The key is recognizing these responses and tending to yourself with care and compassion.
How I Am Taking Care of Myself During These Challenging Times:
Limiting What I Consume – I am very intentional with what I consume. I rarely read or watch the news as it is toxic for the mind. Some might think it's being un-informed, but if you're taking in information and not taking action, you're just exposing yourself to unnecessary stress and vicarious trauma.
Focusing on the Basics – Prioritizing daily movement, nourishing foods, and quality sleep. These simple habits have a profound impact on our well-being.
Meditation and Self-Compassion – Prioritizing time every day to meditate, check-in with how I am feeling, and practice self-compassion. A key component of self-compassion is common humanity. It's important to remind ourselves that emotional suffering is a universal experience. We are not alone in it.
Spending Time in Nature – Giving myself outdoor time whenever possible, even in small chunks. My new puppy has been an excellent accountability partner on this front. Spending time in nature reduces stress, improves mood, and enhances our well-being.
Connection and Support – Being intentional with who I spend time with, finding people and spaces with shared values and goals that foster authentic connection, and meeting regularly with my therapist. We find strength and healing through connection.
If you’re finding yourself in a state of flight, flight, or freeze from the heaviness of the world right now, I encourage you to pause and ask yourself: How do I feel? What do I need and want? How can I care for myself today?
Small, intentional shifts can bring you back to a place of balance, presence, and resilience. You are not alone in this.
And, if you're looking for connection and support, I invite you to join my monthly Mother's Circles. The next one is on March 6 at Common Street Spiritual Center in Natick. It’s a safe, non-judgmental space to gather with like-minded women to share experiences, find meaningful connection, and feel supported.
Or, if you’re looking for more personalized support, feel free to reach out to talk about working together 1:1. Remember, taking care of yourself isn’t selfish—it’s essential for your well-being and the well-being of those you care for. You deserve it.
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