Are you stressing about creating the "perfect" holiday experience for your kids and managing everything that comes with the season? It’s easy to feel pressured to meet expectations, but the truth is: what your children really need and want is you—present, joyful, and connected.
Here are six ways to help you show up as the mom you want to be this holiday season:
1. Prioritize What Matters Most to You
Pause and reflect on what’s truly important. It’s easy to get caught up in the pressure to keep up with norms, expectations, and excess. Take time to evaluate what matters most to you and tolerate the discomfort that often comes with saying no to invitations, requests, and things that don't. This includes assessing family traditions you want to continue and which ones you might let go of—especially if they no longer serve you or your family. By being intentional and aligning with your values, you can create a holiday experience that feels meaningful—not overwhelming.
2. Regain Perspective
When you feel a sense of urgency or overwhelm creeping in, take a step back and ask yourself: Will this matter in an hour? A day? A month?
Often, the little things we stress about—like mismatched outfits, a messy house, or running late—aren’t as important as they seem in the moment. Shifting your perspective can help you focus on what truly matters: being present and joyful with your family.
3. Make Self-Care a Priority
The holiday season is often about giving—but don’t forget to give to yourself. Investing time and money in your well-being is one of the most meaningful gifts you can give yourself and your family. When you prioritize self-care, you’re better equipped to show up fully for your loved ones.
4. Find the Pauses
Amidst the busyness, embrace small moments of stillness. Pause before the meal. Pause between opening each gift. Pause before stepping out of the car. These tiny pauses can help you ground yourself and appreciate the joy in the present moment.
5. Unplug from Social Media
Social media can easily lead to comparison and stress, especially during the holiday season. Stay present with your family by setting aside dedicated screen-free time for everyone. Use this time to bond and create lasting memories—play board games, take a walk, have a dance party, or bake something together. These simple moments of connection are the best gifts you can give.
6. Do Some Upfront Planning
While we can’t avoid all holiday stress, a little proactive planning can go a long way in reducing its impact. By creating a plan, you’ll feel more confident and equipped to handle tricky family dynamics, challenging emotions, and the inevitable stress that comes with the season. Use my free Holiday Self-care & Stress Management Plan as a guide to help you navigate the season with greater ease and intention.
This season, let go of perfection and embrace connection. Your family will feel the difference, and so will you.
I wish you a holiday season filled with love, joy, meaningful connection, and fun memory-making moments.
Warm wishes,
Jessica
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